Was 2011 your year for all of your enemies to attack
you. Did it seem that no matter where
you turned, there were enemies all around you?
Were you the innocent victim of betrayal, gossip, lies, slander,
infidelity or broken trust? Did someone leave you heartbroken, or did they steal something even more valuable from you like your
trust? Has someone stolen something near and dear to your heart like a lover or
a promotion, maybe you were even conned out of your life savings? Did someone falsely befriend you, only to use
you to get close to another person in your life? Or perhaps the person that hurt you was not
an obvious adversary, maybe there is someone in your circle whom in the
nice-nastiest way, is constantly trying to belittle, degrade or take potshots
at you at every available opportunity.
Pretending to be your friend, knowing that all the while they are filled
with jealousy and contempt for you.
These types of people pretend to be your best friends in order to stay
close to you. Because it’s easier to do
the most damage at a closer range as a friend than it would be farther away as
an enemy. So they stay in your life,
continuing to be the only thing that they truly ever could be to you, and that is a” Frienemy”. Or to put it even more plainly, an undercover
Hater disguised as a friend=Frienemy.
The type of hurt inflicted by a friend can be the most
painful of all. But the solace to that
bitter pill is that at least in some twisted way, it does make more sense for
someone who is closer to you to hurt you than it would be for a complete and
total strange to hurt you. At least they
know you, and no matter how twisted the reasons are that they have fabricated
in their mind, they know what your life is like, and maybe watched your
happiness, gifts, talents and blessings from afar and grown envious overtime.
Like I said, it is twisted, but in some way it does make sense. In my mind it
makes a lot more sense than when a stranger who knows nothing about me, targets
me, to hurt me for absolutely no reason.
I know that for me, when I have been attacked and purposely hurt by
someone who doesn’t even know me, it baffles me. The pain that I feel is compounded by the
confusion that comes along with a situation like that. In the past, I’ve spent many long hours trying
to figure it all out. I keep asking
myself what I did or said wrong to make them treat me this way, to make someone
seek me out to attack me maliciously without cause or provocation. And the answer I got was this: “People
always throw rocks at things that shine.”
I heard that line in
the lyrics of a Taylor Swift song. I’ve
got to give it to her, for such a young girl, she has either dealt with a lot
of “Haters” or been blessed with wisdom beyond her years. Because not only did
she sing those words, she also wrote them. And
when I heard them, they so perfectly expressed exactly what I was feeling. Because it seems to me that the more joy,
talent, beauty, prosperity, blessings, love, happiness or wealth you have, the
more some people want to hurt you. My
mom used to tell me when I was growing up that no matter how much you do to
please people, there will always be someone that doesn’t like you, for whatever
reason. There will never be a way to
make everyone like you. You will never be able to please everyone. So don’t
ever try, just be you, “Do You.” Don’t
ever try and “Shrink to Fit”, in order to make someone else feel more comfortable
about themselves. Don’t ever put a
dimmer on the brightness of your shine; just learn how to dodge the rocks.
We may never know why there seems to be this natural
inclination for some people to hate those who are happier or that seem to be
more successful than they are. Maybe
seeing the happiness of others reminds them of how unhappy and disappointed
they are with the way their lives have turned out. Seeing our happiness reminds them of the
misery. And instinctively we become the enemy, the obvious target of their
pain. That is just one theory of mine, but really we may never know why The
Haters that we encounter, do what they do. Maybe Satan just needs to use
someone to assist him in doing his dirty work.
And even though it may not look that way right now, if any of these things have happened to you,
like myself, if you have experienced
unwarranted pain or hurt this past year as the result of any of these
events, do you know what I have to say to that?
GOOD, NO GREAT! THANKS HATERS!”
Because believe it or not they have actually did us an enormous
favor. So to all of the “Haters” out
there, I say THANKS, because you’ve made
me stronger, tougher, smarter, wiser, helped me to sharpen my instincts, you
have also made me more determined to be better, no, to be the best that I can
be in spite of all that you have done to sabotage me. And by living my life this way, being the
best me that I can be, happy, healthy and free, I am insured to have the best
and sweetest revenge possible. Although
I must point out, that this is not my goal.
It is simply the result of living well.
The best revenge you can ever have in life, is to live well and
be happy. And the benefits do not end
there; the best news is still yet to come.
Because what I’ve learned is that whenever we are the target
of unprovoked attacks, it means that God has a plan for you. It means that like Job, He thinks very highly
of you, and after you have passed this test, and gotten through this, He will
elevate you to a higher place in your life.
And the cool thing about God is that whenever you pass a test and move
on to the next level, he always rewards us with blessings and a higher level of
favor and He will use your enemies to assist Him in doing so. Just as He has said in His Word, “If God is
for you, who can be against you?” He has
also said many times in His Word, “He will use your enemies as your
footstool.”(Luke 20:43). But in order
for this to happen for us, there are certain requirements and behaviors that
God expects from us during this challenging time. As I stated earlier, I know this from
personal experience, and in my next blog I will share exactly how God did that for me and I received blessings and incredible favor from God as a
result.
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